By Expansive Therapy – LGBTQ+ Affirming Therapy in New York & California

If you’ve found yourself asking, “Am I gay?” — you’re not alone. Many people, at various points in life, question or explore their sexual orientation. At Expansive Therapy, we specialize in LGBTQ+ affirming therapy, helping individuals navigate these deeply personal questions in a safe, supportive, and nonjudgmental space.

Why Am I Questioning My Sexuality?

Questioning your sexuality can feel confusing, overwhelming, or even scary—especially if you’ve been taught to believe there’s only one “right” way to love or be. You might find yourself asking:

• Why do I feel attracted to people of the same gender?

• Why am I fantasizing or dreaming about people of the same sex?

• What does it mean if I’ve always dated the opposite sex but now feel differently?

• Am I gay, bisexual, pansexual, queer, or just curious?

• Is it normal to be unsure about my sexuality?

These are valid and important questions, and it's important to remember that exploring your sexuality, though scary at first, can be a fun and liberating process. Working with a gay-affirming therapist can help you unpack these thoughts without judgment or pressure to label yourself.

What Happens in Therapy for Questioning Your Sexuality?

At Expansive Therapy, we approach sexuality exploration with compassion and curiosity. Our licensed therapists—many of whom identify as gay and bi themselves—are trained to support you through:

• Unpacking past experiences, cultural messages, or internalized homophobia

• Exploring attractions, fantasies, and emotional connections

• Supporting you through a period of experimentation without a set goal in mind or pressure to land somewhere in particular.

• Understanding the difference between compulsory heterosexuality and authentic desire

• Navigating coming out, if and when you're ready

• Building self-acceptance and confidence in your identity

  
  

Whether you’re a teenager, in college, midlife, or later in life, it’s never too early—or too late—to explore your truth.

Why LGBTQ+ Affirming Therapy Matters

Not all therapists are trained or comfortable working with LGBTQ+ clients. In fact, many people have experienced microaggressions or invalidation in traditional therapy settings. That’s why finding a gay-affirming therapist—one who understands the nuances of gay identity, relationships, and community—is essential.

At Expansive Therapy, we are proud to offer:

• Virtual therapy for clients across New York and California

• Coaching for those outside of those states

• Therapists with lived LGBTQ+ experience

• Culturally competent and identity-affirming care

• A welcoming space for all gender and sexual identities, including straight, gay, lesbian, bisexual, pansexual, queer, questioning, and beyond

  
  

It's Okay Not to Have All the Answers

One of the biggest myths around sexuality is that it’s fixed and should be immediately understood. But the truth is: sexuality can be fluid, and the process of self-discovery takes time. Therapy doesn’t promise to give you a label—it gives you the tools to explore, reflect, and grow into whatever is true for you.

Whether you’re questioning your sexuality, feeling confused about your feelings, or just need someone to talk to while you explore, we’re here.

Ready to Start Therapy?

If you're asking yourself, “Am I gay?”, and want a safe, supportive space to explore your sexuality, Expansive Therapy is here to help.

👉 Book a free consultation with one of our LGBTQ+ affirming therapists in New York or California today.

Let’s explore your truth—at your pace.