There are elements of being queer, of thinking queer, of understanding queer space that deeply inform the therapy process.

So what makes therapy “queer”? How does being a queer person create a queer space in which to work?

The therapeutic space—whether in person or virtual—is not an empty space. It’s a shared energetic field, shaped by both people in the room. Therapists sometimes say, “This space is just for you.” But that’s never fully true. While I don’t often share much about my personal life, my presence—my beliefs, lived experience, energy—is always part of the space, just as yours is.

That means my openness, my curiosity, and my deep acceptance of all things related to gender, sexuality, identity, and life experience, are present too. They help shape the container we build together.

When you sit with someone who’s genuinely open-minded, you may find that your mind has more room to open. You might begin to question whether some of your old thoughts or patterns still serve you. That’s where change begins.

So there’s me, the therapist.

And then there’s my intention to be radically open—to all experiences.

Most of us have grown up steeped in a straight, heteronormative, cisgender culture. These ways of thinking get into our minds and our bodies. Unlearning them—loosening their grip—takes time. They’re tight. Constricting. And letting go of that constriction is, in itself, a healing process.

We named our practice Expansive Therapy because we are deeply committed to making room—for ourselves, for our queer community, and for anyone longing to stretch beyond what they’ve been told is “normal.”

Carl Rogers, a founding voice in humanistic psychology, believed in something called Person-Centered therapy. He taught that when a person experiences full acceptance—of their thoughts, feelings, identity—by another human being, that acceptance creates a deep sense of safety. And from that safety comes the potential for transformation.

To me, that kind of full-hearted acceptance is a deeply queer idea.
This is how I’m feeling. This is what I’m desiring. And that’s perfect.

Queer therapy is relational work done in a space that is open, curious, and expansive.  What is true right now?