Paying attention to someone else or having them pay deep attention to us creates a beautiful connection.  In this space of time, we are in a relationship, we are connected, and we are not alone.

Good, present sex with others starts with good, present sex with yourself.

Queer therapy is relational work done in a space that is open, curious, and expansive.

Complex PTSD is significantly more common in the queer community due to prolonged emotional neglect, identity-based trauma, and a lack of affirming support systems.

Yes, Chosen Family Therapy is a thing. You and one of your closest friends can go to therapy together and work through your stuff. 

In Lena’s Girls there was room for everything. I fell in love with that. Isn’t that the same as falling in love with your own queer, outside the het-norm cultural way of being in the world? 

Partnered sex is probably the most intimate and vulnerable thing we can do with another person, and so a certain degree of distancing and dissociation can occur for most of us at some point...

Attacks on our community are becoming pervasive and normalized, and it’s more important than ever to be intentional about taking care of ourselves. 

We are not meant to be happy all the time. Life can be challenging, sad, or upsetting. On down days, it’s easy to feel like something’s gone wrong.

While research can give us valuable insights into what tends to work for specific issues, it’s important to remember that therapy is highly individual. There are various types of therapies within each of these categories, and what works best for you may depend on your unique needs, preferences, and goals.

There is no binary in mindfulness—only noticing, without categorizing. Learn how gentle, judgment-free awareness can deepen your relationship with yourself.

Explore how toxic shame shapes identity and connection. Learn how self-compassion and therapy can heal the feeling of ‘not enough’.

Learn why fear of intimacy causes us to push others away. Explore emotional withdrawal, attachment, and healing in queer-affirming therapy.

Learn how therapy supports emotional regulation and expands your window of tolerance. Flex emotional muscles without overwhelm or retraumatization.

Explore the benefits and challenges of throuples therapy. Our NYC & CA therapists support open, honest dialogue for non-traditional relationships.

What comes up when you think about slowing sexual pleasure down?  Is there some anxiety about not getting to the finish line?

The rational mind is valued above all in a capitalistic society, and emotions are seen as messy, inconvenient, and risky.

Learn what CPTSD is, the research behind it, and evidence-based strategies to heal through therapy. Discover how trauma-informed care can support recovery.

It’s easy to center a person in your world that seems to check off all of the boxes. At the beginning of the relationship it’s easy to let go of other relationships because all of your connection needs seem to be met.

At Expansive Therapy in New York, we believe that effective mental health care for the LGBTQIA+ community must be rooted in a deep understanding of their unique lived experiences. This goes beyond simply being "LGBTQIA+ friendly"; it means adopting queer-informed therapeutic approaches that acknowledge systemic oppression, celebrate diverse identities, and empower individuals to thrive.

We can’t change a thing before we can sit with it.  So in saying the unmentionable thing we can start to sit with it together in the session and begin to cultivate compassion.

Discover how gay-affirming therapy provides a safe space and effective strategies to overcome internalized homophobia, build self-acceptance, and thrive as an LGBTQ+ individual. Learn 10 key benefits.

For the queer community, chosen family is crucial. Regardless of how supportive your bio family has been in the past or is now, it’s important to build a network of people that truly understand your experience and can support your full queer self.

Have you ever had a therapist that you felt was really nice but who didn’t challenge you to really look at yourself?

Strengthening your mind-body connection helps with stress management, emotional regulation, and overall well-being. Discover five practical exercises to enhance awareness, build trust in your body’s signals, and achieve mental and physical balance.

Therapy is like training a muscle—it’s not just about what happens in sessions but how you apply it in daily life. If you’re feeling stuck in therapy, the issue may not be your therapist but how you’re using the space. Learn how to build mental strength by integrating emotional workouts beyond the therapy room.

Dating apps can be both exciting and frustrating. Learn mindful tips for dating apps to avoid burnout, make meaningful connections, and protect your mental health while swiping. Discover how to break the cycle of endless scrolling and create real, lasting relationships.

Queer liberation is about more than breaking free—it’s about setting boundaries, honoring your mental health, and building trust in relationships. Explore the balance between self-expression and self-care in the journey to true authenticity.

The neurochemical drive to open our phone and get another quick dopamine rush usually outweighs the part of us that wants to cut down on the behavior.

We are not good people or bad people, but we are every kind of people. If you think you are just the good parts, well then, life may throw you some surprises.

Navigate holiday stress and complex family dynamics with self-care, planning, and maintaining boundaries. Get tips for a healthier holiday experience.

We’ve all been there. We break up with someone and we’re still connected on Insta. As we go through the emotional disentangling, we are bombarded with pictures and videos of our ex living their lives, often seeming unperturbed, or worse… somehow better off? WTF.

Even small changes can make a significant difference, because you have the power to shape your social media experience in a way that supports your mental health.

Unlock the transformative power of movement and discover how Dance/Movement Therapy can uniquely support the mental health and well-being of queer individuals.

What is an Abrosexual? Understanding Sexual Fluidity Through a Queer-Affirming Lens For many people, sexuality and sexual attraction do not feel fixed or constant, but rather are dynamic and ever-changing. Abrosexuality is a sexual identity that reflects this fluidity. At our queer-affirming therapy practice, we support clients in exploring and embracing labels that resonate with their lived experiences, including abrosexuality.

Minority stress is a psychological concept that describes the chronic stress experienced by individuals with marginalized identities—especially those who identify as LGBTQIA+. Originally developed by Dr. Ilan Meyer, this framework helps explain how stigma, discrimination, and social exclusion take a toll on mental health.

Notice what your authentic hopes and fears about the holidays without judgement.

Conversion therapy, also known as “reparative therapy” or “sexual orientation and gender identity change efforts (SOGIECE)”, refers to psychological, spiritual, or behavioral practices intended to change or suppress a person’s sexual orientation, gender identity, or gender expression. Despite overwhelming scientific consensus against it, conversion therapy remains legal and practiced in many parts of the world, often targeting vulnerable LGBTQ+ youth. The evidence is unequivocal: conversion therapy does not work, and it causes profound, lasting harm.

Although the term neurodivergence has been commonly used in pop culture, it is important to understand that it is more broad than what is seen on social media.

In recent years, a number of new sexual identities have arisen that are based not on who we are attracted to romantically or sexually, but rather how we attach to others.

We’re conditioned to keep moving, push beyond our limits, and associate guilt with rest. But what if I told you that the key to showing up fully in your life is something as simple as sleep?

At Expansive Therapy, we see sexuality as the opposite of static or fixed. We believe that it ever evolving and shifting, and that there is always a new frontier to explore. Even those who feel very firm in a sexual identity can always explore a new

For neurodiverse individuals who also identify as LGBTQ+, this intersection can bring unique challenges and a profound need for understanding and support. This article explores the importance of affirming therapy that recognizes and celebrates the full spectrum of these identities, fostering mental well-being and genuine self-acceptance.

At Expansive Therapy, we believe that every individual's journey of gender identity is unique, valid, and deserves to be understood and celebrated. As a 100% LGBTQIA-owned practice where most of our therapists are queer-identified, we understand the nuances and complexities of navigating gender in a world that often prioritizes binary understandings. One such identity, rich in its expansiveness, is pangender.

As the language around identity and gender continues to grow and expand, so too must the language of sexuality and sexual identity.

Sexuality is a natural, diverse, and deeply personal part of human life — yet for many LGBTQ+ individuals, it can be complicated by shame, stigma, and misinformation. Finding a therapist who offers sex-positive LGBTQ+ therapy is essential for healing, growth, and empowerment.

Social interactions can feel like navigating a minefield for anyone dealing with anxiety. But for many in the LGBTQIA+ community, the landscape of social anxiety is often shaped by unique layers of fear, judgment, and past experiences. At Expansive Therapy, we understand that stepping into social spaces can trigger worries far beyond typical shyness. Our LGBTQIA+ affirming therapy offers a grounded, real-world approach to understanding and managing social anxiety, helping you move towards connection with confidence.

Explore the link between loneliness and hookup app use in the queer community. Learn how therapy can provide meaningful support and foster healthier connections.

Struggling with queer shame or internalized queerphobia? Discover 5 therapist-approved tools to support your LGBTQIA+ mental health, including inner child work, body-based healing, and queer-affirming therapy.

While conventional psychotherapy primarily emphasizes verbal processing and cognitive understanding of trauma, trauma-informed yoga offers a complementary non-verbal, experiential form of therapy

For most of us, dating is a mixed bag of excitement and dread. Dating experiences often serve as mirrors reflecting our self-worth.

Struggling to discuss your queer identity in therapy can feel isolating, especially when issues are framed heteronormatively or responses come off as condescending.

Adding a third is fun and exciting, but also means a lot of emotional conversations that will test the strength of your current relationship.

For sapphic individuals—women, nonbinary people, and femmes who are attracted to other women or feminine-aligned people—finding a therapist who understands and affirms your identity can make all the difference. Whether you identify as lesbian, bisexual, pansexual, queer, or somewhere else on the spectrum, your experiences deserve to be seen, honored, and supported.

Attachment styles generally reveal themselves right from the start. Understanding your own style and tendencies will empower you.

At Expansive Therapy, we celebrate the vast and diverse spectrum of human connection. While society often narrowly defines relationships as either strictly "romantic" or purely "platonic," the reality is far more colorful and complex. One such unique and deeply meaningful bond is the Queerplatonic Relationship, often abbreviated as QPR.

Discover how mindfulness-based therapy helps LGBTQ+ individuals manage stress, heal trauma, and build emotional resilience. Affirming, inclusive mental health care at Expansive Therapy

Social connection is a fundamental human need. Yet, for many in the LGBTQIA+ community, the path to genuine connection can be paved with unique challenges that lead to profound feelings of isolation and loneliness. At Expansive Therapy, we understand that this isn't just about being alone; it's about navigating a world that too often pushes queer individuals to the fringes. Our LGBTQIA+ affirming therapy offers a grounded, compassionate space to unpack these experiences and build meaningful connections. We recognize that LGBTQIA+ social isolation isn't a personal failing, but often a direct result of systemic prejudice, misunderstanding, and the ongoing pressures of living as an authentic queer person.

Gender-expansive therapy is an affirming, client-centered approach that supports people whose gender identity exists outside of traditional binaries. That includes trans men and women, non-binary people, agender folks, genderfluid individuals, and anyone else whose experience of gender doesn’t align with mainstream expectations.

Learn how narrative therapy helps LGBTQ+ individuals re-author their life stories, heal from shame, and affirm their identities with compassion and agency

While every therapist's journey is unique, here are some reasons I chose this path and continue to feel fulfilled in my practice as a therapist.

The distance between the thing I’m paying attention to and the distraction or the need to look at something else has gotten incredibly short.

Why is it that sex, arguably one of the most natural and innate human instincts, can at times feel far from natural?

Sapphic is a broad, umbrella term that typically describes women, nonbinary people, and feminine-aligned individuals who experience attraction to other women or femmes. The word is inspired by the ancient Greek poet Sappho, who wrote emotional and romantic poetry about women from the island of Lesbos.

The beauty of an aromantic identity is that there is room for anything to happen in the future.

It is clear that both monogamous and polyamorous relationships have their unique challenges and benefits, but they both share the need for strong communication skills, flexibility, respect, and the need to grow and share together.

At Expansive Therapy, we deeply understand the unique challenges faced by trans and gender-diverse individuals. While external transphobia—prejudice, discrimination, and violence from others—is widely recognized, many people also grapple with a more insidious form: internalized transphobia. Understanding this phenomenon is the first step toward healing and living more authentically.

Learn what it means to be polysexual or polyromantic and how queer-affirming therapy can support the exploration of fluid attraction and identity.

Explore the key differences between PTSD and CPTSD through a queer-affirming lens. Learn how trauma uniquely impacts LGBTQIA+ individuals and how therapy can support healing.

For folks in the queer community, having a queer identified or queer affirming therapist offers a vital space for healing, growth, and self-discovery, free from judgment or the need to constantly educate. Yet even in a city like New York, they can be hard to find!

Gay men often have complicated relationships with their bodies, through no fault of their own but due to the homophobic system that we all grew up in. Here are some of the reasons why body dysmorphia often runs deep in gay men’s lives:

At Expansive Therapy, we offer affirming relationship counseling tailored specifically to the needs and experiences of queer couples.

To truly thrive, I believe it's crucial to cultivate a deep sense of curiosity, acceptance, and self-compassion to move through the world with the profound self-love necessary for freedom and authenticity.

For many people, sexuality is a central part of identity and relationships. But for some, the experience of sexual attraction—or lack thereof—can look very different. If you've ever felt out of sync with society’s assumptions about sex and desire, you might be wondering: What does it mean to be asexual?

Explore avoidant attachment in queer relationships from a queer-affirming therapist's perspective. Learn how LGBTQIA+ individuals can heal attachment wounds and build deeper emotional intimacy through therapy.

LGBTQIA+ polyamorous relationships, often called "polycules," represent a vibrant and often deeply fulfilling way of loving. These ethically non-monogamous structures, where individuals openly and consensually engage in multiple romantic and/or sexual relationships, offer unique opportunities for growth and connection. However, like any relationship structure, they come with their own set of challenges, which can be effectively navigated and strengthened through specialized relationship therapy.

LAT relationships—short for Living Apart Together—are a growing relationship model where couples maintain a committed romantic partnership while living in separate homes. Whether by choice or necessity, LAT relationships can offer a unique blend of independence and intimacy. At Expansive Therapy, we offer therapy for LAT couples, helping partners navigate the benefits and challenges of this evolving dynamic.

Becoming a parent is a life-changing journey filled with hope, excitement, and — at times — complex emotions. For LGBTQ+ parents pursuing adoption, there can be additional layers of challenge and nuance. At Expansive Therapy, we proudly offer therapy for LGBTQ parents who are adopting.

At Expansive Therapy, we believe that mental health care should be as diverse and expansive as the individuals it serves. For neuroqueer individuals—those who are both neurodivergent (e.g., autistic, ADHD, dyslexic) and part of the LGBTQIA+ community—finding truly affirming support can be a challenge. Neuroqueer individuals often navigate a world built for neurotypical and cisheteronormative experiences. This can lead to a complex interplay of challenges, from sensory overwhelm and executive dysfunction to minority stress, imposter syndrome, and the profound exhaustion of masking one's true self. Traditional therapeutic approaches, unfortunately, can sometimes fall short, inadvertently pathologizing differences rather than recognizing them as natural variations of human experience.

Talking to a therapist trained in gay and bi issues provides something friends and family often can’t: a safe, confidential, nonjudgmental space to sort through your thoughts, fears, and hopes.

Gender dysphoria refers to the distress that can occur when a person’s gender identity does not align with the sex they were assigned at birth. This experience can affect many areas of life—emotional wellbeing, body image, relationships, and a sense of safety in the world.

Healthy kink can be not only fun and exciting but cathartic and empowering. Are you curious about exploring a new kink? Learn more in this blog post.

If you’ve delved into polyamory or open relationships, you’ve likely happened upon the term compersion

For many, spirituality is a deeply personal and enriching aspect of life, offering a sense of meaning, purpose, and connection. However, for LGBTQIA+ individuals, navigating spirituality can present unique challenges. Experiences of judgment, exclusion, or even trauma from religious institutions can create a disconnect between one's identity and their spiritual journey. At Expansive Therapy, a 100% queer-owned practice where most of our therapists are queer-identified, we understand these complexities and offer a safe, affirming space to explore your spirituality in a way that truly resonates with you.

Gender-questioning individuals often face unique emotional, social, and internal challenges as they explore their identity. Whether you’re unsure about your gender, seeking language that fits, or navigating how your gender identity intersects with other parts of your life, therapy can offer clarity, support, and empowerment.

Living authentically as an LGBTQIA+ person can deeply impact family relationships. While some families offer unconditional support, others may respond with confusion, denial, tension, or even rejection. Navigating these complex family dynamics can be emotionally exhausting and often traumatizing. The most important thing is that you don't go through it alone.

Polyamory (from the Greek poly = many, and Latin amor = love) refers to having or pursuing multiple consensual romantic or sexual relationships at the same time, with the full knowledge and agreement of everyone involved.

In our ever expanding technological world, we are still people who need to be with other people. Forging deep bonds built from vulnerability and trust make life meaningful.

Bisexual people make up a significant portion of the LGBTQ+ community—yet they often face unique and under-recognized mental health challenges. Many bisexual individuals experience distinct forms of stigma and invisibility that can deeply affect their well-being. At Expansive Therapy, we offer affirming therapy that acknowledges these realities and provides a supportive space to process, heal, and thrive.

In therapy, we celebrate the fluidity of identity, embracing the beauty of self-discovery and self- expression. Together, we can unpack the societal expectations and internalized messages that may be holding you back from fully embracing your authentic self.

Being queer does not make you flawed, unworthy, or undeserving of belonging. You do not need to show “proof” for your existence by being The Best Little Kid in the World. You are worthy and deserving because of who you are.

Despite being the largest group within the LGBTQ+ community, bisexual people often experience a unique kind of marginalization—bisexual invisibility and erasure. This phenomenon isn’t just frustrating; it can be deeply harmful to one’s mental health and sense of self. At Expansive Therapy, we offer affirming therapy that recognizes the challenges of navigating the world as a bisexual or bi+ person—and provides a safe space to process, heal, and grow.

In today's digital landscape, queer hookup apps like Grindr, Scruff, Tinder, Feeld, Sniffies, and Growlr have become ubiquitous, fundamentally reshaping how individuals connect. For the LGBTQIA+ community in New York, these platforms offer unique avenues for connection, community, and sexual exploration. However, while offering clear benefits, they also present significant challenges to queer mental health. At Expansive Therapy, we understand these complexities and provide affirming therapy to support individuals in navigating their digital and real-world relationships.

Asexuality is a valid and often misunderstood sexual orientation. At our LGBTQ+ affirming therapy practice, we support individuals across the asexual spectrum—also known as the ace spectrum—to explore identity, set boundaries, and heal from stigma in a supportive therapeutic space.

For all the beautiful parts of being queer, there are also some challenges we face. From microaggressions to systemic oppression to complicated family dynamics, we can easily become bogged down with stress or fall into shame spirals and isolation. None of it is our fault, but it is our responsibility to take care of ourselves in order to build the resilience we need to ward off these negative forces instead of internalizing them. Here are queer focused self care strategies: 

Gay affirmative therapy, also known as gay affirming therapy or simply gay therapy, offers a safe and affirming space for gay individuals to explore their experience of being gay in the world, heal from painful and traumatic experiences, begin to understand how internalized homophobia works, and tap into their strengths and cultivate resilience.

Bisexual people comprise the largest group of LGBTQ+ people by far, and yet they still tend to face a lot of invalidation in our culture. Bi erasure refers to the tendency to ignore, deny, or invalidate the existence of bisexuality as a legitimate sexual orientation. It occurs when people overlook or dismiss the experiences and identities of individuals who are attracted to more than one gender.

For those in the LGBTQ community, Ffinding a therapist who truly understands and affirms your identity is paramount for effective mental healthcare. While most therapists can work with LGBTQ+ clients, an "LGBTQ+ friendly" or, even better, an "LGBTQ+ affirmative" therapist goes beyond mere acceptance. They actively celebrate and validate diverse sexual orientations, gender identities, and relationship structures, recognizing the unique challenges and strengths that come with these experiences.

Often in our content we refer to mental health related topics and issues that not everyone understands. Here is a list of LGBTQ mental health related terms if you find yourself curious of confused.

Curious about what each identity in the LGBTQIA spectrum means? We've got you covered.

So often we fall down the trap of talking about LGBTQ people in terms of their difficulties in the world, which can reinforce narratives of deficit that lead to more shame for the community. In contrast, strength-based therapy offers an affirming, empowering approach that focuses on your inner resources. For LGBTQIA+ individuals, this approach can be a powerful tool to navigate life’s challenges, heal from trauma, and thrive in the world.

Trauma can manifest in various forms, from overt experiences of violence or abuse to subtler forms of discrimination, rejection, or invalidation. For LGBTQ folks, navigating societal stigma, familial rejection, and internalized shame can result in profound emotional wounds that affect mental health and well-being. Trauma-informed therapy acknowledges the complex intersections of identity, oppression, and resilience, creating a safe space for exploration and healing.

Coming out of the closet is seen as a monumental milestone in queer lives. Leaving the safety of conformity can be terrifying, but liberation and self-love, infinitely rewarding.

Queer individuals often face unique challenges and adversities in navigating their identities and relationships. In queer affirming therapy, addressing these challenges requires a nuanced approach that recognizes the importance of self-compassion and resilience. 

Gender expansive therapy, or therapy that supports and affirms the gender of trans and gender nonconforming individuals, has been proven effective by a number of different measures. Here’s what studies across psychology, psychiatry, and public health tell us:

Polyamory and open relationships are both forms of consensually non-monogamous relationships that prioritize trust, honest, and communication, but they have distinct characteristics and dynamics:

Religious trauma can be a heavy burden to carry for LGBTQ folks. The clash between religious teachings and your identity may have left you feeling lost, unworthy, and disconnected. In LGBTQ therapy, our goal is to join you empathetically as you navigate through these challenges towards a place of self-acceptance, resilience, and inner peace.

The LGBTQIA community possesses many strengths and positive attributes that aren’t often acknowledged within mainstream narratives. Primarily, these strengths come from our journey as queer people. Being different, experiencing adversity, coming out, advocating for ourselves and others - these are all experiences that benefit us in so many ways, building strength and character, crafting us into our fabulous selves!  Here are some of the strengths and positive attributes that research has found to be associated with LGBTQ individuals; 

Genderqueer is a term used to describe individuals whose gender identity falls outside the traditional categories of male and female. Genderqueer folks reject or transcend societal norms and expectations associated with gender, embracing a fluid or non-binary understanding of themselves.

Within Indigenous cultures of North America, the term "Two-Spirit" holds profound cultural and spiritual significance, encapsulating a holistic understanding of gender identity, sexuality, and spirituality. In this article, we explore what it means to be Two-Spirit, delving into its historical roots, contemporary relevance, and the challenges experienced by individuals who identify with this identity.

A gender therapist, also known as a gender-affirming therapist or gender counselor, is a mental health professional who specializes in working with individuals who are exploring or questioning their gender identity, as well as those who are navigating gender transition or related issues. These therapists provide a safe, supportive, and affirming space for clients to explore their gender identity, express their feelings and concerns, and access appropriate resources and support.

In a world where romantic relationships often take center stage, the experiences of those who identify as aromantic can sometimes be overlooked or misunderstood. Aromanticism describes individuals who experience little to no romantic attraction or desire for romantic relationships. 

If you’re thinking about opening your relationship, it’s important to protect yourself from negative cultural messaging and take comfort in knowing that there is a lot of research out there that shows that open relationships are just as healthy and satisfying as conventional, monogamous relationships, and in some cases more so. In this article, we’ll get into some of the biggest benefits that are backed by research and therapeutic experience. 

Gender dysphoria is a complex and deeply personal experience that occurs when someone’s gender identity, or internal sense of their own gender, differs from the sex they were assigned at birth. This misalignment can manifest as distress, discomfort, and dissatisfaction with one's body, social roles, and overall sense of self. Gender dysphoria is a very difficult thing to navigate alone, especially within environments that are not affirming of gender exploration. LGBTQ affirming therapy can be a good place to find support and begin to unpack feelings of gender dysphoria. Only you can decide what the right path forward is in terms of your gender, but therapy provides the affirming space for you to figure that out.  

As an LGBTQ identified and specialized therapist, one of the most vital aspects of my work is helping individuals navigate the complexities of their identity. Among the gay community, one issue that frequently arises in therapy sessions is internalized homophobia. This issue, which all gay people face to one degree or another, can have profound effects on mental health and wellbeing. Often it operates below consciousness and directs our life without us even realizing it. In this article, I'll delve into what internalized homophobia is and offer insights into how it can be addressed effectively in therapy.

Relational therapy, also known as relational-cultural therapy or relational psychotherapy, is primary modality used at Expansive Therapy, and is a therapeutic approach rooted in the belief that healing occurs within the context of relationships. Rather than focusing solely on individual pathology, relational therapy emphasizes the importance of interpersonal connections and their impact on mental health and well-being. Here, we delve into five compelling benefits of relational therapy, supported by research evidence.

If you identify as part of the LGBT community and are thinking about starting therapy, one of the questions that you should consider is whether or not to seek out a therapist who identifies as LGBT themselves. The alternative would be to seek out LGBT affirmative therapy without regard for the identity of the therapist, or specifically from someone outside the community, knowing that they have received specialized training with the LGBT community. Here are some of the reasons why you might choose either. 

As a therapy practice that focuses on alternative relationships, our therapists have a lot of experience dealing with polyamorous relationships, and a few of of us are in them ourselves. Polyamory comes with many benefits backed by science, the only thing to remember as you review these is that none of them come easy. They definitely don't come the day you decide to become polyamorous. The benefits come over time to people who are committed to building a strong foundation for their polycule. The growth requires leaning in and getting uncomfortable, and having the right support in doing so.

In discussions surrounding gender, it's common to encounter terms like gender identity, gender role, and gender expression. However, these concepts are distinct and nuanced, each playing a unique role in shaping an individual's experience of gender. In this article, we'll delve into the differences between gender identity, gender role, and gender expression, and highlight the importance of seeking therapy for individuals navigating their gender journey.

If you identify as gay and are considering starting therapy, finding a therapist who understands and affirms your experiences and identity is crucial. The difference between a gay affirming therapist and a therapist who says that they treat everyone the same can be vast.

Questioning one's sexual orientation is a journey that many individuals embark on at different points in their lives. It's a process filled with complexity, introspection, and sometimes confusion, but it's also a journey that holds the potential for profound self-discovery and growth. In this article, we'll explore what it means to question one's sexual orientation and how to navigate this journey with compassion and self-awareness.

Kink encompasses a wide range of sexual behaviors, desires, and fantasies that deviate from conventional norms or practices. It includes activities such as bondage, role-playing, fetishism, dominance and submission, and sensory play, among many others. At its foundation, healthy kink is a consensual and mutually satisfying expression of sexual desire that allows individuals to explore their fantasies, desires, and identities in a safe and consensual manner.

Coming out as gay is something that takes an enormous amount of courage. Wherever you are in life and whatever your surroundings might be, know that you are not alone, that there is nothing wrong with you, and that there are people out there who will support you and love you for exactly who you are. It is never too late or too early to come out if you know in your heart that you are gay. There is usually a hump to get over and some emotional work to do, undoing years of negative messaging, but at the end of the road is the recognition that being gay is a beautiful thing. 

Taking the first step towards therapy can be both daunting and empowering. Whether you're seeking support for mental health concerns, personal growth, or relationship issues, the first therapy session marks the beginning of a transformative journey towards healing and self-discovery. In this article, we'll explore what typically happens in a first therapy session and provide guidance on what to expect.

Pansexuality is a sexual orientation characterized by attraction to individuals regardless of their gender identity or expression. Pansexual individuals may be attracted to people of all genders, including but not limited to cisgender, transgender, non-binary, and genderqueer individuals. Pansexuality emphasizes attraction to the person as a whole, rather than solely based on their gender.

If you identify as LGBTQ or are curious about exploring a part of yourself that falls outside of the cisgender heteronormative box, therapy can be a powerful tool for self discovery, self acceptance, healing, and empowerment. However, not all therapy is the same, and there is a big difference between a therapist who has undergone training to be LGBTQ affirming versus someone who says that we are all alike and they can work with anyone. There are many things that make the LGBTQ experience different from the straight cis experience, and if a therapist doesn’t understand or appreciate those differences, there is a high likelihood that important parts of you will get minimized, bypassed, and even avoided.

As a practice specializing in LGBTQ relationship counseling, we’ve had the privilege of witnessing the profound impact therapy can have on strengthening and enriching the bonds between couples within the LGBTQ community. LGBTQ relationship counseling provides a dedicated space for couples to navigate the complexities of love, intimacy, and partnership with support and guidance tailored to their unique needs.

Queer identity exploration is a deeply personal journey. Whether you're newly questioning your identity or looking to deepen your understanding of yourself within the LGBTQ+ spectrum, therapy can provide a safe, affirming space to do that work. At Expansive Therapy, we specialize in queer therapy that supports individuals navigating gender, sexual orientation, and all aspects of queer identity development.

In recent years, ethical non-monogamy has exploded in popularity as more and more individuals realize that traditional, monogamous relationships don’t align with who they are and what they value and desire. As a therapist, I've guided many clients through the complexities of alternative relationships. Here, I'll delve into what ethical non-monogamy entails and offer guidance on navigating its complexities within relationships.

Our gender identity is a fundamental aspect of who we are, shaping our sense of self, relationships, and experiences in the world. However, for many individuals, exploring gender can be a complex and challenging journey filled with uncertainty, confusion, and societal pressures. In therapy, delving into one's gender identity with an affirming gender therapist can offer profound benefits, fostering self-discovery, empowerment, and authentic living.

For LGBTQIA+ individuals, navigating mental health can often involve unique challenges rooted in societal stigma, discrimination, and minority stress. While these external factors are real and impactful, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) offers powerful tools to help individuals manage their internal responses, build resilience, and foster well-being. At Expansive Therapy, a 100% LGBTQIA+-owned practice, we deeply understand these experiences and integrate queer-affirming principles into our CBT approach.

Studies show that LGBTQ+ individuals are at higher risk for developing body image issues, including body dysmorphia. Here’s why:

Finding the right therapist can feel a bit daunting. We’ve laid out 5 tips for finding your match.

Living with ADHD can be a complex, confusing experience. For many, it means navigating a world that wasn’t built for their way of thinking. For those in the queer community, this challenge is often doubled. When neurodivergence and queer identity intersect, individuals can feel both unseen and misunderstood—not only in broader society, but sometimes even within their own communities.

Each day, we’re pulled further and further from that which is inherent in us - our power, our love, our joy, our ease - our self.

If you are considering exploring pansexuality, queer affirming therapy can be a great place to start. In this article, we delve into the unique considerations and therapeutic approaches involved in exploring pansexuality.

From self-awareness to improving relationships to processing trauma, here are 6 of the top benefits of going to therapy.

Pansexuality—at its core—is the capacity to be attracted to people regardless of their gender. For some, it means being attracted to all genders. For others, it means that gender just isn’t a defining factor in their experience of attraction. Like all identities under the LGBTQIA+ umbrella, pansexuality is valid, complex, and often misunderstood—even within queer communities.

At Expansive Therapy, we recognize that healing and self-understanding are deeply influenced by both identity and neurodivergence. Being LGBTQIA+ and neurodivergent—whether autistic, ADHD, dyslexic, or otherwise—means navigating a world not designed for your needs. Therapy that honors both your neurodivergence and your queerness can be transformative.

At Expansive Therapy, a 100% queer-owned therapy practice based in California, we understand that identity is a rich, dynamic, and often evolving landscape. For many in the LGBTQIA+ community, this means experiencing identity fluidity – a natural and healthy process where one's understanding of their sexual orientation, gender identity, and/or romantic orientation can shift, deepen, or change over time. Far from being a source of confusion, this fluidity is a testament to the boundless nature of human experience. We are here to offer affirming, expert therapy to support you through every stage of this personal journey.

Queer self-acceptance therapy, often integrated within the broader framework of Queer Affirmative Psychotherapy (QAP), is a specialized and affirming approach to mental health care that centers on validating and celebrating an individual's sexual orientation, gender identity, and gender expression. Unlike traditional therapy models that may pathologize or overlook LGBTQ+ experiences, queer self-acceptance therapy provides a safe, non-judgmental, and culturally competent space for clients to explore their authentic selves, heal from past wounds, and cultivate a deep sense of self-love and pride.

For LGBTQIA+ artists, creativity is often deeply intertwined with identity, emotion, and community. But being a queer creative also means navigating unique challenges—whether it’s marginalization, internalized stigma, or the emotional labor of making art in a world that doesn't always apprecite your unique voice.

In a world increasingly shaped by digital connections, online LGBTQIA+ therapy has emerged as a vital resource for mental well-being. While its convenience and accessibility are clear, a natural and important question arises: Is online therapy for queer individuals as effective as traditional in-person sessions? At Expansive Therapy, we firmly believe in the power of virtual care, a conviction strongly supported by a growing body of research demonstrating its profound benefits and comparable efficacy.

The way we view therapy is heavily influenced by the media, our family of origin, our circle of friends, social media, and our greater culture. Unfortunately, many of the conceptions that we hear are pretty far off from the actual experience of therapy in today's world, and they can make starting therapy feel more intimidating. In this article, we'll debunk the 6 most common misconceptions that we hear about therapy.

Asexuality is a sexual orientation that is often misunderstood or overlooked in mainstream discussions about sexuality. Yet, for individuals who identify as asexual, it is a fundamental aspect of their identity and lived experience. In this article, we'll explore what it means to be asexual, debunk common misconceptions, and discuss the importance of seeking support through therapy.

Embarking on a journey of self-discovery and understanding around bisexuality can feel both daunting and liberating. If you find yourself considering therapy as a means to navigate this journey, know that you're not alone. In this article, we offer guidance and insights for individuals considering therapy as a resource for exploring bisexuality, providing a roadmap for self-exploration, acceptance, and empowerment.

Explore how the collaboration with Bessel Van Der Kolk, renowned trauma expert, profoundly influenced Expansive Therapy's approach to healing.

Discover the impact of generational and historical trauma, its perpetuating cycle, and how therapy plays a crucial role in fostering healing.

Finding truly supportive and understanding mental healthcare can be a challenge for the LGBTQIA+ community. This is where LGBTQIA+ affirmative therapy steps in – a crucial and transformative approach that goes far beyond mere tolerance to actively celebrate and validate every aspect of your identity.

Body dysmorphia, also known as Body Dysmorphic Disorder (BDD), is a mental health condition that causes individuals to obsess over perceived flaws in their appearance—flaws that are often invisible or minor to others. This article explains what body dysmorphia is, the signs to watch for, and how therapy for body image issues can help you or someone you love move toward healing.

Discover the top 5 research-supported benefits of gay therapy. Learn how affirming therapy improves mental health, reduces anxiety, and fosters self-acceptance for LGBTQ+ individuals.

Demisexuality is an identity that is quickly growing in today’s world, and yet it is often misunderstood or overshadowed by more widely recognized orientations. Demisexuality refers to a sexual orientation where individuals only experience sexual attraction only after forming a strong emotional bond with someone. Unlike traditional models of attraction, which prioritize physical appearance and immediate chemistry, demisexual individuals require a deep emotional connection before feeling sexual desire.

For individuals navigating polyamorous relationships, the journey can be incredibly enriching, yet it often comes with unique complexities and societal pressures that traditional relationship frameworks may not address. That's where affirming therapy comes in – a dedicated space for polyamorous individuals, ethically non-monogamous (ENM) couples, and polycules to explore, grow, and thrive.

At Expansive Therapy, we believe that mental well-being is intrinsically linked to an individual's social, cultural, and political context. For members of the LGBTQIA+ community in New York and California, navigating life often involves unique challenges rooted in societal structures, discrimination, and systemic oppression. That's why we offer feminist therapy, a deeply queer-affirming approach that empowers individuals to understand their experiences, challenge oppressive norms, and live authentically.

Explore how LGBTQ+ movements challenge traditional binaries, transforming our understanding of gender, emotion, and human experience.

For many in the LGBTQIA+ community, the relationship with one's body is more complex than societal beauty standards alone. Experiences of discrimination, the pressures of gender expression, and the often-unseen nuances of identity can profoundly shape how we view ourselves. At Expansive Therapy, we offer LGBTQIA+ affirming therapy that provides a grounded, understanding space to navigate body image concerns without resorting to platitudes or unhelpful optimism.

At Expansive Therapy, we understand the unique challenges that LGBTQ+ professionals face in the workplace and beyond. Whether navigating corporate culture, managing microaggressions, or balancing identity and ambition, LGBTQ+ individuals in professional settings often carry an invisible burden. Our practice offers affirming and confidential mental health support designed to help you thrive—both personally and professionally

I wish I could say that I purposefully decided to take a tech break while I was away on holiday. The truth is that other activities pushed it out of the way. And then I noticed that. And then I started to notice other things.

LGBTQ+ trauma is real—and therapy can help. Discover how queer-affirming therapy supports trauma recovery and empowers LGBTQ+ individuals to heal and thrive.

Explore the relationship between addiction and isolation, how recovery hinges on connection, and the importance of empathetic support.

Discover the link between the queer and neurodivergent communities, understand unique challenges they face, and the need for informed therapy.

Many LGBTQIA+ people carry trauma from experiences of exclusion, harassment, invalidation, or violence—whether those events were direct and overt, or subtle and chronic over time. This kind of trauma often lives in the body, shapes how people move through the world, and can be hard to name, especially when it’s been normalized or dismissed.

Struggling with queer anxiety? Learn how LGBTQ+ affirming therapy supports the unique mental health needs of queer individuals and fosters healing and empowerment.

Gender-expansive therapy is a modern, inclusive approach that offers compassionate support for individuals exploring or living outside of traditional binary gender norms. It centers your lived experience, affirms your identity, and helps you navigate your journey—on your own terms.

For most people that have gone through the coming out process, it can be painful.  No one says this is easy, internally or externally. But truth is gold. 

Internal Family Systems (IFS) is having a moment.  A big one.  In his theory,  Richard Schwartz believes that we have not one solid self, but instead, many selves.  Sometimes these selves have jobs that compete with each other.

At Expansive Therapy, we offer affirming therapy for individuals, partners, and relationship networks exploring or practicing polyamory, open relationships, and other forms of consensual non-monogamy (CNM).