Our gender identity is a fundamental aspect of who we are, shaping our sense of self, relationships, and experiences in the world. However, for many individuals, exploring gender can be a complex and challenging journey filled with uncertainty, confusion, and societal pressures. In therapy, delving into one's gender identity with an affirming gender therapist can offer profound benefits, fostering self-discovery, empowerment, and authentic living.

If you are curious about exploring your gender and perhaps stepping outside the bounds of the gender you were assigned at birth, It’s important first and foremost to find a gender affirming or LGBTQ affirming therapist. Typically therapists will say in their bios if they have particular experience with gender exploration or with the LGBTQ community, and most therapists offer a free 15 minute consultation before getting started, which is a great place to gauge their comfort level with gender exploration. 

Here are some of the benefits of exploring your gender with an affirming therapist: 

One of the primary benefits of exploring gender in therapy is the opportunity for self-discovery and personal growth. Therapy provides a safe and supportive space where individuals can explore their thoughts, feelings, and experiences related to gender in a non-judgmental environment. Through open and honest dialogue with a skilled and affirming gender therapist, clients can gain clarity about their gender identity, preferences, and aspirations, empowering them to live authentically and in alignment with their true selves.

One of the best parts of exploring gender in therapy is that there doesn’t need to be an end goal. For some people, transitioning from one gender to another is ultimately what they want, but for others, they simply want to explore and expand their gender indefinitely. Affirming therapy opens up a space for gender exploration without the therapist placing a linear endpoint or encouraging any specific direction. With a big enough container for exploration, gender exploration can be a fun, exciting, and limitless process. 

Moreover, exploring gender in therapy can help individuals navigate the complexities of identity development and expression. Most of us struggle with internalized messages and societal expectations regarding gender roles and norms, which can create feelings of shame, confusion, or disconnection from oneself. Therapy offers a space to unpack these internalized beliefs, challenge societal norms, and cultivate a more expansive and affirming understanding of gender.