Expansive Therapy is a 100% LGBTQ-Owned Therapy Practice

Pansexuality—at its core—is the capacity to be attracted to people regardless of their gender. For some, it means being attracted to all genders. For others, it means that gender just isn’t a defining factor in their experience of attraction. Like all identities under the LGBTQIA+ umbrella, pansexuality is valid, complex, and often misunderstood—even within queer communities.

Affirming therapy for pansexual individuals is about creating space to explore what it means to live as yourself and become embodied and empowered in a world that often makes assumptions, erases nuance, or treats queerness as a phase or a problem.

Common Themes Pansexual Clients Bring to Therapy

No two people experience their identity in the same way, but there are patterns that many pansexual clients navigate. Therapy can be a space to work through:

• Invisibility or erasure
  Pansexuality is often misrepresented or misunderstood, even within LGBTQ+ spaces. You may have been told you’re “confused,” “just bi,” or “doing it for attention.” That kind of invalidation can stick, even when you know it isn’t true.

  
  

• Internalized shame or doubt
  If you’ve grown up without language or representation for your identity, you might have struggled to fully accept it. Therapy can help unpack that shame and explore what authenticity looks like on your terms.

  
  

• Complex relationship dynamics
  Dating while pansexual can bring up specific challenges: feeling fetishized, navigating monosexism (the assumption that people are only attracted to one gender), or being pressured to "prove" fidelity or commitment. Therapy can help clarify your needs and boundaries in relationships.

  
  

• Coming out or not coming out
  You may be navigating when, how, or whether to come out as pansexual—to family, partners, coworkers, or even within queer communities. Therapy can help you think through those decisions with nuance and care.

  
  

• Intersectional identity work
  Pansexuality doesn’t exist in isolation. Therapy might explore how it intersects with your gender, culture, race, faith, disability, or upbringing—and how those intersections shape your experience.

  
  

What the Therapy Space Offers

We aim to create a space where you don’t need to over-explain or defend your identity—where “pansexual” is understood as a legitimate and whole identity, not something to be challenged or doubted.

Some of the work might include:

• Affirming your identity without reducing you to it
  Pansexuality is a part of who you are—but it’s not the only thing. Therapy can hold space for your whole self: mental health, relationships, work stress, trauma, growth, and everything in between.

  
  

• Unpacking cultural and relational messages
  Many pansexual people grew up with narrow definitions of love, gender, and attraction. Therapy can help surface and question those messages, while giving you permission to define your experience for yourself.

  
  

• Developing self-trust
  When your identity is often second-guessed or erased, it’s easy to start second-guessing yourself. A good therapist supports your capacity to trust your own feelings, needs, and identity—even when others don’t get it.

Get Started

Expansive Therapy offers affirming therapy to pansexuals and those curious about pansexuality. We have immediate openings in New York and California. We offer free consultations, affordable rates, insurance assistance, and online/in person options. Reach out today or check out our homepage.